Tuesday 23 August 2011

Sometimes Conversation is as good as Action

I'm just going to put it right out there. This post is about abuse. It is about the fact that those among us, including myself, need to overcome the shame and anger of having been abused. It's not our usual happy-joy-joy. So here's a photo of a marmoset staring at its hand at the animal park today to tide you over.

"A little less conversation, a little more action" does not apply to the subject of abuse. Why? Because talking about it is the most important step. By opening up a dialogue, you can begin to work through the issues. Whether it be physical, mental, emotional or sexual abuse, raising awareness for the victims will break the cycle.

I have mentioned before my physical and mental abuse in primary school, as well as the sexual and severe physical abuse in early highschool. I was ashamed about this for a very long time. But I won't be any longer. I refuse to be any more. I was tortured in primary school, and I was raped by my first boyfriend for a year and half. It won't ever go away, not really, but it can get better. I will not be in the shadow of other people's cruelty any more.

Living in your fear, shame and anger is letting them win. It is important to let everything go. You are better than them. You are not them. You will never be them.

Please share your stories. I will be here to support you and help you. Break the cycle of abuse.

Much love to you all.


linnea-maria said...

:(. It is often someone you know that abuses you. Not a stranger jumping out of a bush when you walk by. Only a few people know that I've been abused. And a few of them did not beleive me (relatives)when I told about it. I was too strong, too self consious to be abused, they choosed to beleive his story about me being unfaithful. The only way he could control me was, were you are the most vulnerable, in bed, and through the children. I've always said, I'll walk after the first slap. But if there is no slap, the violence comes sneaking, hiding behind words etc, it isn't easy to see before it's too late.
Warm Hugs

Lady Euphoria Deathwatch said...

Thank you for opening up this for discussion. I feel your pain and know where you are coming from.

It does get better, but only after you open up about it.

I am many years your senior, but remember well my tortured years.

We out here on the web love you for who and what you are.

Keep on bloging! You are making a difference.

Hugs, Euphoria

Ashlee said...

I was and still am verbally abused by my sister and have been for as a long as I can remember. It takes a long time to realize that there isn't anything wrong with you and the person is just using you to make them feel better about themselves.

It's very sneaky abuse. Little comments that don't mean anything but add up. Suggesting that I'm stupid, not as good as her, ugly, fat, a freak who nobody will ever like, etc.


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